Even though they have been together for more than three decades, Oprah Winfrey and her lover have not tied the knot. Oprah, who is now 65 years old, said that she had her doubts not long after the pair were engaged and asserted that there is a valid explanation for why they did not get married.

Winfrey said in her article that she “realized I didn’t really want a marriage. I wished a query. I wanted to know that he believed I was worthy of the label of his mistress, but I did not want to invest the time, effort, or sacrifice that is required to keep a marriage happy and healthy.”

The host of the talk show went on to remark that she and Graham both believe that if they had been married, they probably wouldn’t be together anymore at this point.

Winfrey said that everybody who has had the opportunity to interact with him has been blown away by the true gentleman that he is, “he has a really positive attitude. really cares about me as well as everyone else he knows.”

The philanthropist explained her decision not to have any more children in a statement she released the previous year, citing “the level of responsibility and sacrifice that is genuinely required to be a mother.”

According to an interview that Winfrey gave to the publication Individuals, she said, “I realized, ‘Whoa, I’m talking to a lot of messed-up people, and they are messed-up because their moms and dads were not aware of how important that job is.'”

Winfrey has indicated that she “had no regrets” about the decision she made, and that her work in the field of humanitarianism has “filled that mother fold.”

She goes on to say that “one of the reasons I don’t regret anything is because I was able to fulfill it in a manner that was best for me.”